Proud SIDECHICK Syndrome??

As we all know Valentine's Day was a few days ago, and a reoccurring topic for the past few days has been "SideChicks." A lot of people were posting comments about being a sidechick and I couldn't help but notice the reactions from a lot of females. Its been something that's been on my mind for a while so I HAVE to briefly address this issue!

I mean seriously... when did women start accepting being SIDECHICKS?!?!? Like when did that become cool or okay?!?!
I honestly feel like a lot of women lack a certain amount of respect for themselves and that's why they KNOWINGLY carry on relationships with men who are openly in a "committed" (and I use that term loosely, because his cheating is clearly a contradiction of the meaning of that word)relationship with another woman.
As women shouldn't we have standards set for ourselves? Why should you ever settle for second fiddle, when there's nothing stopping you from getting your own?

It also BOGGLES my mind how these "sidechicks" have NOW TAKEN ON THIS ATTITUDE as if the "real" girlfriend, fiancee or wife (or "wifey"... whatever term is used to refer to the woman HE OPENLY ADMITS being with) is the one who looks stupid or crazy, or should be frowned upon. It seems like they've adapted an attitude that the joke is on the girlfriend/wife "because if she was doing it right he wouldn't keep coming back to me" or "he'd really rather be with me than her, its just their situation"
I don't get that concept. I mean seriously in MOST cases the "girlfriend/wife" is being deceived by a man who goes around frontin' for the world that he's so committed and so in love with his girlfriend/wife.
Yet you (the sidechick) knows he'll probably NEVER really LEAVE the girlfriend/wife for YOU. He's using you to fulfill his unfaithful, deceiving, low-down-dirty dog habits and behaviors because he KNOWS YOU'LL LET HIM! You're being strung along and in most cases can (and probably will) be replaced by another sidechick. (The same slick talk he used on you, he'll most likely use again when he's had enough of you OR when YOU finally get fed up with the side role).

So who's really looking crazy?

A few convos of him telling you he "can't leave you alone," and how much he really really likes (he might even say love... idk these dudes do anything to SELL A DREAM) and how he's just "in a situation"... then BAM!! Just like that, morals fly out the window, and a woman allows herself to become the "sidechick."

This obviously gives that sidechick the feeling that they have the upper-hand on the girlfriend or wife.... which in turn feeds into this attitude of a false sense of superiority.
But in actuality your affair comes SECOND to the one he has with his girlfriend/wife. So upperhand? mmm... not really. All you really have is the knowledge of the wrong-doing, while the girlfriend/wife is in the dark (although she may have SUSPICIONS of her mate's infidelity).
Please keep in mind, sidechick, that he may tell you all those things you WANT to hear, to MAKE YOU BELIEVE whatever he's selling BUT you better believe he would DISMISS and DOWN-PLAY you to the girlfriend/wife in a heartbeat! (just the same way he may try to down-play the existing relationship with the girlfriend/wife while talking to you).

At the end of the day, the proof is in the pudding, if you're not the one he will OPENLY be with then....***straight face*** there's nothing else to really say. "You're looking crazy out here Ms. SIDECHICK!! Cuz basically he's kinda sayin... you're not good enough to claim" Ouch.
That "ah-haaa/oh well/jokes on you" attitude towards the girlfriend/wife is probably just a comfort mechanism to make you feel better about yourself, sidechick, but its not cute and it needs to STOP.
Starting to hate the girlfriend/wife is also dumb... its NOT her fault HER MAN, decided to CHEAT on HER with YOU. The whole idea of making her out to be the villain is just backwards thinking!
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ULTIMATELY its a LOSE-LOSE situation for SIDECHICK vs GIRLFRIEND/WIFE, because either way the man is taking advantage of both women, and HE'S WINNING!
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Of course, I am in NO WAY condoning the behavior of men who claim to "love" their girlfriends/wives, but yet pursue outside relationships with women who they often claim mean nothing to them (ummmm yea sure, so why do it fellas?).
But I'm just saying AS WOMEN we should value and EXPECT more for OURSELVES than to be subjected to the role of the "hidden lover" or sidechick. And as women, have a little more solidarity as a whole: Enough to at least STEP AWAY and not get involved with a man you KNOW is in a relationship, because there's nothing CUTE about that.

And if it HAS to boil down to who looks worse the girlfriend/wife
or the SIDECHICK. Sorry SIDECHICK you're LOSING!!!!
Get some self-respect. Stop vilifying and tryna play the girlfriend, stop blaming the MAN for coming back to you, because you can say NO (yes we know he's wrong too). Own up to your part in the situation. And REMEMBER The Golden Rule; Do unto others, as you'd like done unto you.